That is a phrase Brian and I heard recently on a radio show. We’ve grown up in dysfunctional families and we are learning as we go along how to be parents. I am also a pioneer wife, learning how to be a godly wife. We’ve been married 8 years in July. The first 7 years of our marriage were really difficult at times—I sometimes wondered why I ever got married, is this really what it is supposed to be like, what am I doing wrong, will we ever have a healthy marriage. Last summer we finally came to ground zero….we’ve been on a healthy path since then. Going through “The Steps of Freedom” with the Bells was instrumental in our lives. I’ve been praying since high school for God to bring healing to my heart from my hurts from growing up in a divorced and remarried home……today I can specifically see how God has been steadily answering those prayers. I had a discouraging revelation two days ago…….I can be manipulative with my husband. I never thought of myself that way…..I was just introduced to the idea this past summer that I grew up with manipulative models. Eight months later, I realize I have followed my models’ example…..ugggghhhh! I was so disgusted and sad and angry. My motivation for years has been, “I don’t want to be like them.” Brian reminded me today my motivation should be to be like Christ. My disgust was instantly turned around to hope. My prayer is for my kids to know Christ’s hope in spite of my own shortcomings and sin as a parent. I pray they won’t need to be pioneer parents.